Friday, September 11, 2009

Ten Bad Habits You Can't Break!

Ten Bad Habits You Can't Break!

1. Drinking soft drinks, particularly coke!
2. Eating before bedtime!
3. Leaving home for school 3 minutes before my time!
4. Packing too many things when traveling. I just don't know the words "travel light"!
5. Putting too much stuff in my handbag; it's too heavy to carry around.
6. Being "addicted" to washing clothes. I can't stand dirty clothes and linen.
7. Having second servings even when I'm already full =(
8. Going to sleep late.
9. Siesta after lunch.
10. Buying two of every kind ... like when I can't decide which color I like best. I usually end up buying two ... or three ...

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Motherhood ♥♥♥

How time has flown so fast!

My babies are now ladies and a young man.

I can still remember singing them lullabies before they went to sleep ...

I can still hear the bedtime stories I used to tell them ...

Edna the little girl who doesn't like to take a bath ...

the Three Little Pigs ... and the three Billy Goats named Ting, Tang, and Tong ...

Pictures through the years ...


The Joys of Motherhood ♥






















































Flowers from Our Backyard ♥

The beauty of nature ... God's creation!










My LIttle Cowboy ...





John Romelson Itchon Concepcion

Taken during St. Mary's BarnDance!

Monday, September 7, 2009

AN OYSTER STORY

Been complaining lately about how things are so difficult? Learn from an Oyster ... Read on ...


There once was an oyster
Whose story I'll tell
Who found that some sand
Had worked under his shell.
Just one little grain
But it gave him a pain
(For oysters have feelings
That are very plain).

Now did he berate?
This working of fate,
That left him in such a
Deplorable state?
Did he curse the government?
Call for an election?
Or gripe that the sea
Should have given him protection?

No! He said to himself
As he sat on the shelf,
"Since I cannot remove it,
I think I'll improve it."

Well, years passed by,
As years always do,
Till he came to his destiny,
Oyster Stew!

But the small grain of sand
That had bothered him so,
Was a beautiful pearl
All richly aglow.

Now this tale has a moral,
For isn't it grand,
What an oyster can do
With a small grain of sand?

And what couldn't we do
If we only begin
With all of the things
That gets under our skin?

-Author Unknown-

The Dash

THE DASH by Linda Ellis

I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the date of her tombstone
From the beginning to the End.

He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke the following date with tears
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth
And now only those who love her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not how much we own;
The house, the cars, the cash
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life's action to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they'd say
About how you spent your dash?

Remembering My Lola Epang ...





Recently I made a wonderful discovery about my dear Lola Epang. And I'd like to share it to everybody, especially to my dear cousins, in the hope that in so doing, they'll feel closer to her just like how I feel right now ...

I had the privilege of working in the Academic Vice President's Office of Xavier University as Assistant to the Academic Vice President. This office handles everything that has to do with the Academic Cluster of the University, meaning, all the Schools and Colleges, the Registrar's Office, and the University Library.

In one of my discussions with the AVP Staff, out of nowhere I suddenly remembered that I once heard from a member of my family that Lola used to teach in Xavier a long long time ago. Out of curiosity, I asked Ms Belle, the Administrative Assistant, if they still have the records of past faculty members . She nodded her head and said yes and asked me details about Lola. Then she disappeared for a moment and went into our conference room where we kept all the records.

After a few minutes, she came out of the storage area carrying a worn out brown envelope containing Lola's file. I was excited!

Inside the brown envelope were Lola's documents: her typewritten application letter addressed to the University President then; a copy of her transcript of records; a document showing her past teaching experiences; and a few more personal information. The papers were all worn and yellow, a sign of aging ...

True to what I heard, Lola did teach in Xavier! She did in June of 1967, 6 months before my birth. And I also found out she was the Chairman of the Rank and Promotions Committee.

I also found her school records, and lo and behold, I found out she had an MA from Manuel L. Quezon in Manila. She even wrote a journal for Philippine Normal College in Manila for her Thesis.

For someone like me struggling to finish my doctoral degree in education while teaching in college, her success is amazing! And come to think she did it when most women (that time) were probably not so much into developing careers. I was told she
was the first professional from her hometown.

I felt a pang of loneliness for my lola. At that moment I felt so proud to be her grand daughter. I told my officemates how I felt and I asked if I could photocopy her records as a keepsake. I did not only photocopy them, I scanned them and saved them in my notebook.

By the way, I discovered too, that during that time, Lolo was a Cashier of Philippine National Bank, Corrales Branch here in Cagayan de Oro City. That too, is a great feat for someone who ran away from his home when he was a boy, and who ended up here in Cagayan de Oro as a pulot boy at Nazareth's tennis court.

Reflecting on my own career path, I am glad I am following Lola's path. We may have differed in our fields of interest and expertise (for she was into Home Economics as an Educator while I am into Business Management/Entrepreneurship/Education), but we are both in the noblest profession of all, teaching.

I am proud to have been a product of one good educated lady, Lola Epang. And I love her dearly. I hope I am making her proud of who I am now, of what I have become, and by who I will be!

Friday, August 28, 2009

A New Discovery!




Every night, as I end my day, I always resort to reading a good book or two at bedtime to relax myself. So far I enjoyed those moments and more so because I get to sleep thinking and wondering about how to apply the new learnings in my life. Experimenting on these newly discovered principles and theories have proven to be very rewarding, thus making reading a much anticipated activity for me.

By sheer accident, and much to my delight, I found a new "hobby"! So far it has de-stressed me (if there is such a word) wonderfully!

It all began when one fine afternoon after my class in XU CIT, my daughter Ella and I went to shop in a department store. As we walked, we came across a gondola displaying brightly colored nail polish. We call them "cutex" ... I really don't know why. Maybe that was the name used to refer to nail polish in general. Maybe that was a brand name before, just as we mistakenly refer to "toothpaste" as "colgate"!

And so I bought a few that first day ... and a few more the following day ... and a few more the next day!

I started doing my daughters' nails that very first night, and I never expected we'd enjoy coloring our nails. The greatest reward however was the bonding we've forged ... Me, their Mom, doing their nails while their Dad was watching Leverage and/or Numbers in the nearby computer station a few feet from where we were seated comfortably.

And so every night after that, after doing all my chores and my hands still wet and tired from doing the days' laundry and dishes, when everyone is done with their homework and chores, when most of them are in their rooms preparing for bed, and while I sit with my hubby in front of the computer while he watches a movie or as he surfs the net, I go about and color my fingernails.

One night I painted all ten in one shade; the next night alternately using two different colors. The third day was great! I painted each fingernail using different colors! Believe me, for no reason at all, I slept with a smile in my face ...

My hubby, a gentle critic, asked me one night if my nails would not be damaged by the consistent use of nail polish remover. He also asked, surely out of sheer curiosity, where I got the fashion sense, since I was using non-traditional colors like dark green and frosted blue and frosted violet. My daughters told him it's the "in" thing for most trendy young women. With that response from the trendy young women themselves, he looked at me and smiled ...

So there it goes ... a new and fun way to de-stress (is there such a word? I wonder ...) If you're up to the challenge, try it yourself! See if you'll have the same soothing and relaxing experience that I have enjoyed (and still continues to enjoy) until this day!

And by the way, I did not stop reading. Instead, now have to read longer because I have to wait for my nails to get dry before I can say my prayers, pull the covers, embrace my hubby, kiss him goodnight, and finally close my eyes.

Godspeed ♥

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Marriage Success ...




Success in marriage will depend largely on our ability to focus on improving ourselves, rather than trying to reshape our spouse.

And it all starts way before the wedding ceremony.

Spencer W. Kimball said: “In selecting a companion for life and for eternity, certainly the most careful planning and thinking and praying and fasting should be done to be sure that, of all the decisions, this one must not be wrong. Why? Because in true marriage, there must be a union of minds as well as of hearts. And this can be very challenging.”

The choice of an eternal companion is up to each individual.

The decision of who to marry is the most important decision one will ever make in his entire life; more important that a college course, a career, or a business investment. Why? Because this decision will not only have an effect on the quality of your present life, moreover, it will greatly and significantly have a bearing in the quality of life of your children and their children's children.

Thus, this decision will have to be made with both your heart and your head. In other words, it has to feel right (heart) and make sense (mind).

On Valentine’s Day, there are billions of little candy hearts produced—you’ve seen them—with words on them like “my girl,” “kiss me,” “she’s cute,” and, of course, “I love you.”

What are you looking for in your sweetheart? If you could print your own candy hearts to describe the ideal man or woman, what would you look for?

The Lord said, “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another” (John 13:34). To love as He loved is different from the way the world loves.

The Lord, in 1 Corinthians 13, listed behaviors that should exist between sweethearts as a foundation for a strong and happy marriage.

True love—charity—suffereth long.

• Is patient instead of impatient and tolerant of imperfections instead of intolerant.

• Is helpful instead of being critical of weaknesses. Charity does not criticize, is not cranky, and does not complain.

True love is kind.

• Is happy, thoughtful, helpful, interested in others, a good Samaritan, merciful, and true love gives comfort.

True love envieth not.

• Is content, frugal, and grateful for blessings; is not covetous, resentful, jealous, or greedy; avoids unnecessary debt; and is a full tithe payer. Charity is not selfish or vain, and it lives within its income.

True love is not puffed up.

• Is humble and teachable, does not seek attention, praises others, does not murmur or belittle.

True love doth not behave itself unseemly.

• Is courteous, well-mannered, reverent, respectful, and mindful, as well as clean, neat, and considerate of other’s property and feelings; is not crude, indecent, or improper.

True love seeketh not her own.

• Is tenderhearted, caring, sharing, sensitive, compassionate, generous, and united; thinks we, not I; listens; seeks to please God; is not demanding, controlling, or manipulative; does not blame; and says, “I’m sorry.”


True love is not easily provoked.

• Is forgiving, patient, calm, gentle, and respectful; is a peacemaker who does not get angry, irritable, or vengeful; is not abusive in word or deed; does not swear or quarrel.

True love thinketh no evil.

• Is not judgmental but respectful and trusting, pure and obedient; does not think evil of others by gossiping or finding fault; is modest in thought, dress, and speech; is not deceitful, cruel, or dishonest; avoids inappropriate music, pornography, and dirty jokes.

True love rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.

• Has a temple recommend and wants an eternal marriage; stays close to the Spirit through regular scripture study and prayer; is responsible; is not light-minded.

True love beareth all things.

• Is bold and patient with affliction and trials (this does not mean that abuse victims should silently bear cruelty or follow a spouse who is disobedient to God); is grateful; does not insult others; is not defensive, irritable, touchy, or grouchy; is not weary in well-doing.

True love believeth all things.

• Is cheerful; sees the eternal potential of a spouse; makes the least of the worst and the most of the best; shows by actions that there is a firm belief in eternal families; holds fast to the iron rod; has goals, dreams, a vision, and plans for a happy, successful life together.

True love hopeth all things.

• Is an optimist who looks for the best; praises, builds up, and expresses affection.

True love endureth all things.

• Doesn’t complain or murmur, is steadfast, accepts responsibility, and is industrious while showing initiative.

True love never faileth.


May we all try harder to follow all these, and find ourselves in a loving and meaningful relationship.

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Project: Whatsit Wednesday

Whatsit Wednesday is all about saying one sincere and honest compliment to two persons close to me ... for one whole year. This project will conclude on the 3rd Wednesday of August, 2010.

I've decided to compliment each person using only a word. So here it goes ...

For tomorrow, Wednesday, August 26, 2009 ...

Sarah - Independent.

April Ann - Reliable.

10 Traits to Look for In a Romantic Interest

10 Traits to Look for In a Romantic Interest

I found my love already, 24 years ago. But here's my list, and I'm making this as a tip to my four daughters who will someday meet that special someone ... and surely, this list can be very helpful to check them out ha ha ha!

1. Obedient
2. mature
3. loving
4. hopeful
5. grateful
6. honest
7. peaceful
8. thoughtful
9. sincere
10. positive

just wonderin' ...

I'm wondering why my entries/posts are always very lengthy .... I should try to write shorter ones ...

Noh?

Thursday, August 20, 2009

FROZEN COLD!

Dedicated to those who have been taught that entrepreneurship is the answer to the escalating problem of poverty … Is it?

This is my response to a letter I recently read from the Academy's blog. In that letter, the following questions were raised and were addressed to me and to more than one thousand others, the alumni of the Academy for Creating Enterprise.

Thank you for the thought-provoking questions. It propelled me to reflect on myself as a person and as an entrepreneur.

Why am I still an employee until now? Why haven’t I started my business yet? What’s keeping me from “firing”? Is it the lack of capital? Is it because of fear? If it is fear, fear of what? Is it the absence of a good business idea or opportunity? Was I not taught enough?

Those were tough questions to answer! As i contemplated on my answers to the questions raised, a floodgate of more questions opened ... questions like ...

Have you ever been in a situation where you know something needs to be done, you know you need to do it soon enough (if not fast enough), you know nobody else can do it for you but you yourself? Yet you come to realize you’re stuck, you can not seem to move, and the reason is simple: because you don't know where to begin, or how to begin!

I have been in such a situation, for quite some time now. I still was, up until a few weeks ago…

Why? What happened?

To answer the questions above, I had to ask myself three more follow up questions: Who am I? What kind of a person am I? Will the answers to these two questions show why I was in that vacuum for a long time? Let’s see …

A famous author named John C. Maxwell said that “Attitude Determines Latitude.” It simply means to succeed in life; one has to have the “right” attitude, because the “right attitude” is the difference maker!

The same author said that we must not be afraid to fail. He said that to succeed, one must learn how to “fail forward”. In the Academy we refer to our expected losses in business as “tuition fee”, a failure that is not really welcome but at times a great tool in learning.

It would be safe to say at this point that I have cultivated in myself the “right” attitude! I am an optimist, I always see opportunities in problems, and I try everyday to maintain my proactive nature.

Books written by great authors, I have aplenty… Books that motivate and inspire, books that teach and books that show how … I have a private library full of them! And I have read them all, not just once or twice, for I have even made presentations on all of them for the seminars and workshops that I conduct.

Academic qualifications is not also a problem. Recognized as a specialist in the field of business, I make a living out of sharing this knowledge to others.

Exposure to industry, I have ample experience, more than enough to give me confidence in my capabilities.

Support system, very extraordinary! Very supportive family and friends.

Network, amazing! I know the right people who are in the right places.

Yet, there I was, for the longest time, unable to really and completely “take the leap of faith” and join the bandwagon of the new and improved lds entrepreneurs, those of us who have been blessed enough to have been given the chance to be taught and trained in an institution wholly dedicated to improving the lives of the Filipino Saints thru entrepreneurship, the Academy.

Why? That one question seems to be THE million dollar question!

Reflecting on it, I came to realize that it was not the lack of knowledge that pegged me to inaction. It was something else.

Thinking about it, a lot of reasons began emerging. I hope as I enumerate them here, I will finally be able to point to THE main reason… I beg for your indulgence as I bring you along to journey with me in finding out where I failed … Because it has been said, and I know this to be true, that when we find the real problem, we are halfway towards finding the solution for it.

Why haven’t I taken the leap of faith? Why haven’t I “fired”?

1. I hanged on to employment because with it I felt financially secure. I wanted the security of receiving a pay check at month’s end for obvious reasons. So I had a part-time job as college instructor, a full-time/8-hour-job as Assistant to an Administrator, a consultancy with public offices as well as private entities, and a few other engagements that brought in money. And to think I only have 24 hours a day …

2. I loved my profession. I gave it all: my heart, might, mind, and strength. I belonged to an organization that I loved. I valued what I was doing there. For these reasons I did my best, gave my best. I gave of myself, my time, my talents, anything that I can offer in the spirit of service. I would be a hypocrite if I will say I was not hoping to be reciprocated. I wanted to be part of the organization full time. However, I came to realize that it was not a mutual thing. For whatever reason beyond my understanding, they did not want me in the manner I was hoping they would. With a sad heart and a hurting ego, I left. I said to myself that if I was not good enough as full time, then I might as well stop as part time.

When I did, it felt like I’ve lost everything that I’ve worked for, everything that I’ve really wanted, the very thing that I prayed for.

I lost the people I thought were my friends. I was true to them. I gave them a part of me.

I lost the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of my students in that school.

And sadly, I lost a part of me too!

They say our enemies stab us from behind. Well, my so called “friends” stabbed me in front!

3. My daily routine made me a prisoner or a rat in a rat race. The moment I woke up to the time I was ready for bed, all I did were the usual daily chores: my tasks at home and at work. I felt there was simply no time for other things … not just yet somehow … maybe later? Someone once said I was spreading myself too thinly! I guess that was a good observation, and it was true! I was doing so many things all at the same time.

4. I dedicated myself into becoming good (if not excellent) in what I did. I suppose there’s nothing wrong with that. However, I came to realize that doing so many things all at the same time made me a “generalist” rather that a “specialist”. I was jack of all trades, master of none. I was a management graduate with an MBA and will soon earn a doctorate degree in education. Three different fields of specialization in a very limited (in terms of opportunity) and hostile working environment (in terms of competition and workplace politics).

5. I have very limited resources. This is an overused statement or reason voiced by many would-be, struggling, and stuck-up entrepreneurs as the primary reason for inaction or the inability to start and fire.

Many would say however that this is the easiest problem to resolve. Rules of Thumb such as Think Big, Start Small and the principle behind the lemonade stand are often used to counter this wrong line of thinking. I have heard people say that an excellent business idea/concept, backed by a reliable feasibility study, can always attract investors. True.

But allow me to say a little more on this subject matter.

I believe that everything that happens to us happens for a reason. In my personal life and in my relationship with my husband, I have found rich evidences that these experiences, these happenings in our lives, are actually given for us to become better persons, for others.

Why haven’t I started yet my businesses?

For example, one of my dreams is to be able to open a training school for domestic helpers going abroad. Another is to open a pre school. Why is it that until now, these two still remains a dream?

My answer today would be …I don’t have the money to finance these businesses that I really love and believe in.

There it is again, the lack of capital.

And so you say …” if the business idea is good enough, then capitalization is not really a problem …”

Let me tell you this:

I know that these businesses, if I can bring them into reality, will be something to reckon with. My brain is overflowing with plans on how to enhance, how to differentiate, etc., etc., I can even see it already ... smell it. I can not wait to start. I already have a business plan. I made a feasibility study on these already.


So, tell me now, where will I get the 400 thousand I would need so I can start by June of next year? I don’t have properties that I can use as collateral for a loan. Besides, I have been taught that getting a loan is good only if one is expanding.

You would probably say: “find an investor”. Would you be interested? Will you invest in my business? Consider my background, my capabilities … Do you and will you trust me?

Then you would probably say: “find a relative who would be willing to lend you money”. Well, everybody is hard up these days. My relatives are also having financial difficulties. We’re practically on the same boat.

What else can I do? Do I have other options? You tell me now …


I believe the Lord has allowed that my husband and I experience financial challenges just like the majority of the members of the church, so that we will be in a much better position to help others who are in the same situation. But first we have to help ourselves.

If I, with all my knowledge, training, exposure, talents, attitude, network, experience, and skills, am having a very difficult time ‘FIRING!” how much more the others?

So to answer the question what kept me from “doing”?

BECAUSE OF FEAR!

I came to realize it was primarily because of fear. Fear of not having enough. And instead of trusting God to provide me with the things that I need, I trusted myself. I did not allow God to work miracles in my life; I relied on my own strength, my own decisions, my own talent and skills. I forgot about God’s promise to the faithful. My faith dwindled, and I was not conscious about it.

It was when I re-read the Book of Mormon Stories (the bed time story edition) that I found THE answer. As I read the stories (they were written just like all the bedtime stories we know … the reader’s imagination is brought to the actual events and one feels like one is actually there when the events happened … ) to my family during FHE’s and before I went to bed, I was reminded by God of the simplest of things … His commandments.

It is only when we follow the commandments of God, when we live righteously, that He fulfills his promise, of blessing us abundantly, that “there would not be enough room to receive it”. Just like the Nephites of old, we have to live righteously so that we will reap the blessings of abundance and prosperity.

Entrepreneurship, just like employment, is one of the many ways with which we can elevate ourselves from poverty. If we follow everything that we’ve been taught, there is a great chance that we will succeed in our business endeavors. We have been taught well by great teachers in the Academy.

And so I told my husband a few days back: I should have known better … If I am going through a lot now, obviously the reason is because I have not lived my life the way I should. I have not asked to Lord for guidance, for inspiration. I relied solely on my own knowledge. I have set my channel in the wrong frequency.

If I want to prosper, the Lord has given me the way to go about it. And surprisingly enough, His way is simple. If I want to be blessed abundantly, these are the things He expects from me:

• That I should read the scriptures daily, not as an obligation, but with a sincere desire to learn from those who have gone before me.

• That I should read the scriptures with my children. As their Mother, it is my sacred duty to bring them closer to God through the scriptures.

• That I should have regular personal prayer. Then I should help my husband and support him as he leads me and my children in family prayer.

• That I should help prepare and participate in Family Home Evening.

• That I pay an honest tithe.

• That I give a generous fast offering.

• That I keep the Sabbath Day Holy, no excuses, no justifications.

• That I honor the Priesthood.

• That I magnify my church callings.

• That I will strive to hold a current temple recommend and visit the temple regularly.

It is not that I did not do these things before. I did. But I did them out of obligation, because it was expected of me. I never went the extra mile.

For example, my prayers now have become private conversations with my Heavenly Father;

Now I enjoy reading the scriptures ... I look forward to reading them at night;

Now I enjoy telling my children stories from the Book of Mormon ... liken their experiences with the experiences of Nephi, Lehi, Sariah, Ammon, Alma, Helaman, Abinadi, and many others...

I know that just like those who came before us, I will be blessed if I will obey all of God’s commandments. He has given his promise; my challenge is to keep mine.

Now I know this to be true: “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. Then all these things shall be added unto you”.

I know now that I need not fear, that I can do anything, as long as the Lord is with me. I have forgotten about all these before, primarily because I began to look more into myself, rather than to God for help, guidance, and strength.

So for the last few days, I have been working on my business proposals. I have laid out the plans, made phone calls, did some inquiry, talked to my family about what I want to do in the next five years, how I want to go about it, what I want from them, and what I intend to do with them as my partners in this great and exciting undertaking.

My excitement has tripled. I can not wait to make it happen!

And the most important thing, the great difference? I'm doing it just like Nephi of old when he constructed the boat, I now rely on the Lord to help me make wise decisions. I have made him my partner ... Everything that I will do from now on, will always have him in mind. It will always be for his greater glory!

How about you? Do you know what your problems are? Do you know why up until now you still haven’t “fired” yet? Why you still have fears and doubts?

I wish you well, and I hope you will find your answers too!

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Project: Whatsit Wednesday

Whatsit Wednesday is all about saying one sincere and honest compliment to two persons close to me ... for one whole year. This project will conclude on the 3rd Wednesday of August, 2010.

So for tomorrow, Wednesday, August 19, 2009:

1. On Romel: He is very smart! Why? I am amazed at the degree with which he knows almost everything, like its sooooo common sense to him, but not to me! Examples would be on topics such as management, business principles, psychology, even war strategies (from the book by Sun Tzu, the Art of War). Me? I have to do extensive research and read books and articles about it, and read them three or four times just so that I can sincerely say I have a firm grasp on what it means ...

And so we usually talk and discuss things, sometimes over lunch or dinner, at times before going to bed every single day. I usually start the conversation, tell him about my learnings during the day, share about some new amazing discoveries I've had (those AHA moments referred to by Oprah)while reading a book I just bought, or heard in the radio or in the news . Then we exchange thoughts on the subject matter, and then to my amazement, I always discover he knows about it already! Of course not perfectly to the letter, but mostly he knows the principles by heart.

He is THAT smart!

2. My daughter Myco: What can I say? She's smart too, just like her Dad! I read in her blog once how she defined herself based on her college degree. She jokingly described herself as a "jack of all trades, master of none"; about how her bachelors degree equipped her with a little something here and a little something there ... a little accountancy, a pinch of management, a dash of information management, a tiny bit of systems design, etc., etc,. I thought that was it, a negative description of herself and her skills. However, she continued by saying that that definition actually makes her "versatile", which is a positive thing. She's now getting her MIT, and i guess it would be safe to say she's smart enough to know what she wants and smart enough to know how to make it happen ... and more importantly, smart enough to have started working towards achieving them! If that's not smart, then what could it be?

See you again next Whatsit Wednesday guys!

Thursday, August 13, 2009

10 Fads You Just Don’t Get!

1. Emo.
2. Gothic.
3. Skinny jeans.
4. Bob Marley-like hairstyle
5. Body piercing, especially those in the tongue, the nose, the lips, the eyebrows, the cheeks, the nipples, etc …
6. Too much tattoos
7. Wearing rings in all ten fingers at the same time
8. Wearing too big headphones while walking in the street
9. Too large or big sunglasses that covers almost the whole face.
10. The wearing of flip flops anywhere and everywhere. Flip Flops is the popular term used to refer to these expensive slippers, each pair costing around 22 dollars for the least expensive to almost 65 dollars for the most expensive.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Ten on Tuesday


10 Favorite Sounds

1. All my children’s first cry at birth
2. Romelson’s giggle
3. Romel’s laugh
4. Raindrops in the windowpane
5. Sound of rushing water from rivers, brooks, and streams
6. Michael Buble’s voice
7. Karen Carpenter’s voice
8. Multilingual digital voice announcement system in airports
9. the sound of silence
10. My children’s voices when they call me “Mommy” as they arrive home

When we say to ourselves “Tama na!” do we really have the strength and will power to really do it? A reflection ...


When we say to ourselves “Tama na!” do we really have the strength and will power to really do it? A reflection on the example of the late President Cory Aquino …




As I and my family gathered around the television since this morning to witness a very important unfolding of tomorrow’s history … I can not help ask myself questions that I hope I can answer truthfully, not only for my sake, but for the sake of my children and their children’s children … my posterity … your posterity… our posterity.

“Tama na!” … this is a call for change made popular by Ma’am Cory, first shouted in the streets and aired via the media almost 25 years ago. With that in mind, I asked these questions:

• Where are we now?
• Did we heed the call for change?
• What have we done since then to make the called change happen?

I decided to change the questions into:

• Where am I now?
• Did I heed the call for change?
• What have I done since then to make the called change happen?

You see, I believe that change must start with me, because if there’s one thing I have that others can not and do not have control over, it is my freedom to choose to do right over wrong.

Many a times, it’s good to look at the forest first, then the trees. But to be most effective, I believe that we must look closely into the trees, to see the beauty of the forest. In like manner, change must start with us as individuals, in our roles as wives, mothers, daughters, etc. It’s inside going out, from individuals, then families, then communities, then the world. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to make”.

So I asked myself again the same questions, this time, more specifically …

• Am I a better wife to my husband?
• Am I a better Mom to my kids?
• How’s my relationship with my neighbors?
• Am I a good employee?
• Do I earnestly seek the good in others?
• Do I live the Golden Rule?
• Am I a contributing member of the society?


President Cory’s death happened, I am not so sure if this is the right term … in the best time, the right time. In a few months, national election will happen. I hope her death will inspire the whole Filipino nation to choose wisely this time. It is my hope that in spite of and despite the prevalent poverty in the country, Filipinos will opt not to sell their votes. That all of us will have the strength and will power to really mean the words “Tama na!”.

It is my hope and prayer that politicians will run for public office (this time) with pure intents in their heart to serve the public truthfully and honestly, to set aside their personal interests and place the interest of the people over and above their own.

For the younger generation, hopefully the phrase “Tama na” would propel you to be engaged in a good cause, to prepare yourselves to be the best that you can ever be. In so doing you will be able to make a difference by serving the people and the country through your talents and skills.

I told my husband as we were pondering on the situation the Philippines is in … how we as a nation and as a people hunger for anything that’s good. Manny Pacquiao’s achievement as a boxer has united us as a people. It is common knowledge that during his fights, crime rates turned to almost zero nationwide. We all shouted and cheered when he released his fists towards his opponent. When he was declared winner we shouted and rejoiced together. Even I, a non-boxing enthusiast, cried when he won, not because of him actually, but because I felt very proud at that moment, to be a Filipino.

Let’s do something this time, to really mean the words “Tama na!”. Let us vote wisely. Choose the best people who will really serve our country.

To those who are running for public office, please be honest and sincere. Intent to do good is not enough. Your actions, past and present, must speak for you. Talk about these when you campaign. Integrity is of vital importance. Respect is earned. Do you have these?

I believe we all will someday face the Lord, our maker. Surely, one of the questions He will ask us in the judgment seat is an accounting of what we have done during our mortal lives. It is my prayer that you and I will hear from the Lord the words... “Well done, thou good and faithful servant”.

I am honored to have witnessed the leadership of President Cory. And although her critics have not been kind to her when they said she failed in so many ways, from my heart my sincere gratitude to a life well lived, a leader worth emulating.

Leadership is not only about improving GDP, or increasing infrastructure projects, nor lowering national debts, or balancing budget deficits … Leadership is touching lives! She has touched mine, and my resolve is now stronger, to be better in everything that I do.

To Kris, don’t worry … it’s really not goodbye. You will see your Mom again. And when that time comes, it will be for time and all eternity!



mcic/aug2009

Friday, April 24, 2009

The Way It Used to Be ...

Christmas then meant family dinner on the eve of December 24, before in Fortich Street, at the old Villanueva ancestral home, and lately in our house at Villanueva Street, with everybody (the Villanueva's) present, to celebrate my birthday and Christmas together.

Food was aplenty on those occasions. Usual feast included lechon (courtesy of Lolo and Lola in the earlier years) and in the succeeding years by Papa. There's always Kinilaw, Igadu, and Kare Kare cooked by Papa. We always had Mama's potato salad. Then there's dinuguan, pancit, macaroni salad, a birthday cake, more desserts from Tita Faye and Dian, something from Mommy Jul, Ate Maritess, Ate Wawing, and many more.

It was not all food however. I can remember very well how we used to wait for Lola and Lolo's white envelopes containing crisp peso bills. Fortunately for most of us, when Lolo and Lola's time came for them to spend Christmas somewhere else, Daddy Bricks and Mommy Jul took over, replacing the white envelopes with the chinese red ones, and of course, still with the crisp peso bills inside.

I fondly remember also that there was even a time much earlier on when Lola used to give us kids plenty of coins. Lolo being from PNB, and then Daddy Bricks, they seemed to always have a reservoir of shiny coins and very crispy new peso bills, much to our delight!

We used to sing together, and dance together. I even have somewhere (I'll have to look for them and have them scanned) a picture of Tito Boy, Tito Ben, Tito Dots, Mama, Mommy Jul, Tita Faye, and Tita Flor dancing with us children ... As children we were encouraged to sing, dance, recite a poem, play a musical instrument ... anything we can show and share, as our part in the Christmas celebration ... There are certain experiences though that are lonely and are difficult to ignore nor forget ... Lolo, as he grew older, and when Lola left him, avoided these Christmas gatherings, making his store as an excuse, his alibi. Tito Dots too, did this. All we could do was bring them food. Maybe it was their way of coping, and we respected their wishes. But we missed them in those gatherings.

Years continued on ... and we all grew a little older ...

The sad part started when ...

Mommy Jul left for the States, and not long afterwards, Daddy Bricks, Eric, Erwin, Justine, and Olie went too.

Lola died. and then Lolo.

Christmas forever changed for all of us. Of course, Christmases still came and went, and so did my birthdays. For most of us left in Malaybalay, life moved on.
Just today, as I pondered on the most recent Christmas, I could not help but ask ... So how are we (the Villanueva's and the Itchon's) this season? How are the Christmases now in Malaybalay? Surely, this fact is true ... we miss Lolo and Lola, Tito Boy, Tito Dots, Ate Maritess, and Nat ... We miss those who are living far away from us ...

I've decided to make an inventory of everybody ... sort of a rundown ... to see how everybody is doing ... So here it goes ...

Tito Boy's Family

Mommy Jul is now in the States.

Babus now lives in the States and is married to Noel. They are blessed with three sons. Babus is a Registered Nurse.

Lito now lives in Cagayan de Oro with Shashie, while LJay and Mikmik live with Ivan and Beboy.

Ate Wawing is happily married to Edgar. They have two kids, Big Girl and Allen.

Ivan is teaching at BSU and I heared he is a very good college instructor there!

Beboy is with Bukinon National High School while Shan Shan is working at the City Hall.

Heinz is also married and has 1 daughter, Drew Isabel. He is a nurse and is teaching at BSU College of Nursing.

Tito Ben's Family

Tito Ben has retired from DPWH. He has been to the United States to visit Daddy Bricks's family. He's now back in Malaybalay and drives his brand new Innova.
Tita Flor is a judge and is still up and about and as vibrant as ever.
Azalea, or Lea as she is now called, is a Doctor practicing her profession at the Provincial Hospital in Malaybalay City. She's married to Ronnie, an entrepreneur, and they have five bubbly children.

Althea is an Obstetrician. She's now married and loving the time she's having with her nieces and nephew.

Zabdiel is a very successful Thoracic Surgeon at the Philippine Heart Center. He's also married with kids. His wife is a Pediatrician.

Zaniah is the only lawyer amongst the siblings. She is an immigration lawyer. She's married and has kids too.

Avesta Zayin is also a Medicial Doctor. She too is married with kids.

The Itchon's

Papa and Mama has both retired from government service.
Papa is enjoying himself and has adjusted to his retirement excellently. He has served Barangay 1 for a term as a Barangay Official, and I think wants to serve some more if given the chance. These past few months he has been busy beautifying the new house they bought near the Market.

Mama is adjusting to the new lifestyle, and I think will like it even better given more time. She has been to Malaysia a few times in the past months and recently went to Cebu to visit her cousins in Talamban and Alcantara. She's also busy now helping the City government with the Reorganization.

Me, I am married to a wonderful man, Romel, and we five great children, Myco (22), Ella (18), April (15), Sarah (14), and John Romelson (10).

Myco now holds a Bachelor's Degree in Information Management from Xavier University. She is working as a freelance web developer and writer. She plans to study and get her Masters Degree abroad.
Ella is on her 3rd year taking up BS Psychology in Xavier. She loves to play the piano.

April and Sarah are both in High School at St. Mary's.
April is an excellent dancer and choreograhper while Sarah is in the School Volleyball Varsity Team and has a Yellow Belt in Taekwondo.


John Romelson is in Grade School at St. Mary's School. He has a yellow belt in Taekwondo and intends to get a black belt in the near future.

Romel is an entrepreneur. He is into logistics and forwarding. He also manages his farm in Bukidnon.

Me .... I work as part-time instructor and trainer at Xavier University's Center for Industrial Technology. I served as Assistant to the Academic Vice President of Xavier last year, an assignment I really enjoyed and loved. It was a great learning experience for me. I own MCIC Consulting, a Training and Management Consulting business.

I finished my MBA and will soon finish my Doctoral Degree in Education. I'm also Woman Entrepreneur of the Year! I was chosen on a Nationwide Search by the Academy for Creating Enterprise in Cebu City last October 2008.

I have great dreams for the future.

Charina, Edmund, and Nico are presently residing in Selangor, Malaysia.

Charina is an excellent baker, she makes super delicious Moist Chocolate Cakes and Carrot Cakes!

Edmund is with a Multinational Company and has been travelling around Asia.

Eda just got married to Soti and they now have a son named Nate.

Nicko is one bright young man with great potentials and big dreams. I hope he will work hard and smart to get them.

Carla is single and working with the LGU, in the Municipal Library.

Tito Dots' Family

Tita Faye is as beautiful as ever, just like the way I knew her when Tito Dots was still courting her. She's still working at the Courts.

Dian is currently studying to get a law degree.

CheChe is teaching in High School.

Sary just came home from her own stint in Dubai.

Dave and Tonton are doing just fine. All are enjoying being single.

Daddy Bricks'Family

Daddy Bricks, Mommy Jul, Eric, Erwin, Justine, and Oly are all doing well in the States too ...

Eric is married and has a son.

Erwin is married and has three children.
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Justine has a son and his name is Charlie. He is very adorable!

Olie is gorgeous as ever and will soon be a Mom to a baby girl.

So how are the Christmases for everybody now?

Well, Papa has been working hard at keeping the tradition alive. He invites everyone to have dinner at home. Sadly, for so many reasons, Christmas seemed to be a lot different now from what it used to be ...

Last Christmas 2008, the Villanueva's gathered at Tito Boy and Mommy Jul's house. Ivan, Beboy and Shan Shan, Ate Wawing and Edgar, Heinz and his wife gathered their kids together to celebrate. Edmund was there too!

I hope I can do something to bring back the old tradition of having a special dinner for everyone on the eve of December 24. I don't want my children to miss the wonderful feeling of having a strong family composed of Lolo's and Lola's, Aunts and Uncles, and cousins young and old.
I want them to experience belonginess and togetherness ...
I want them to have what I had when I was young ...

I Wish You Enough ...

This is not my work. I came across this article and I feel posting it here and sharing this with my friends will be a good thing.

Please read on ...

Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said, ‘I love you and I wish you enough’.

The daughter replied, ‘Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom’.
They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated.

Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, ‘Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?’.

‘Yes, I have,’ I replied. ‘Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?’.
‘I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be for my funeral,’ she said.

‘When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough’. May I ask what that means? ‘.

She began to smile. ‘That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone’. She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled! even more. ‘When we said , ‘I wish you enough’, we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them’. Then turning toward me, she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory.

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.

I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess .

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

She then began to cry and walked away.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them but then an entire life to forget them.

Who Am I?

Thinking about it, I came to realize I am defined by who I am with, by what I do, and by what I stand for ...

I am truly blessed for being Romel's wife. I hope in its truest sense I have become his best friend and his help meet! We have spent more than half our lives together ...


I am far from being perfect. Mistakes I have, too many to even account. But one thing I know for sure, I LOVE Romel more than anything and anybody in this life (not that i love my parents, my children, or my siblings less ... ). Its just that life is unimaginable without him, and what I am, what I will be, all because he is, and because he loves me!
He has always been, and will always be, the wind beneath my wings!

I am Mother to Myco, Ella, April, Sarah, and John Romelson. My greatest happiness will come from knowing that I, together with their Dad, have raised them to be God-fearing and God-loving persons.

I teach not because I am an expert in many things. I do and look upon that as a noble calling, with the prayer that in my little but sincere ways, I can show my students their God-given gifts and talents, so they will reach their greatest and fullest potentials.

I am me ... in many ways just a child in a grown woman's body. I love reading books, listen to sentimental music, watch sentimental movies ... I love to sing and dance ...

I want to make a difference ... and I know I can make that possible through the many roles I do my best to fulfill,

as wife to Romel...
as mother to my five wonderful children ...
as daughter to my parents ...
as elder sister to Charry and Carla ...
as Auntie Maricris to Eda, Nico, and Nat ...
As Mommmy to Jay, Alex, and Elaine ...
As Ma'am Tina to my SBM and CIT Students ...
As Tina to my associates in XU, in MCIC Consulting, and in the LGU of Opol ...
also in the Graduate School of Xavier University ...
I am Sister Christina to the LDS Community ...

MY NAME IS TINA!
I am just a speck in this vast Universe ...
But I am me!
and I am a significant soul ....
For I am Heavenly Father's daughter...
and in His eyes, I am Special!